When Its OK to Be Selfish

When anyone usually gets caught up in a relationship- or the highs and lows usually associated with the start them- we often tend to forget about one very important person. You.

It wasn't too long ago that I was dramatizing over some dating dilemma to a good friend of mine- when in the middle of the the whole conversation she stops me and says- " This is the problem... We always forget to make ourselves the number one priority!"

Stunned... I sat there and listened to her wisdom and it got me to thinking about this dilemma.

When it comes to matters of the heart...Why do we forget to be selfish?

We forget about our career path, we forget about our dreams and hell- sometimes we even forget to walk the dog! What is it about a relationship that make us so- forgetful?


"BE SELFISH!"  she said

It was then that I looked back and realized that yes- I too have been guilty of the ultimate disrespect- forgetting to make myself the priority.

Don't misunderstand me- I am the first to need this advice and - yes- I am one of those who people (clearly) who gets caught up in the tangled web of infatuation. So this advice is mine to take and mine to give.

Being selfish means that you never forget about what you were doing prior to meeting this "Night In Shining Armor" or this "Playboy Centerfold"- you were a gym enthusiast, an artist, a writer, a movie goer and a Yogi. This person that comes into your life must be a compliment to, not a distraction.

More so, if your new lover is so distracting that they are inviting toxic behavior into your life, this is also not acceptable. If you never smoked a cigarette and all of a sudden you do now because of them- this is not staying true to who you are. You abandon the very core of your direction.Vices are contagious.

Ask your self one simple question at this moment.

"In my life- am I making the infatuation of another person the priority in my life?"

If the answer in anyway is yes- then you need to re-evaluate. Because, if for some reason, things don't go well (god forbid) in that relationship- you will be the only one responsible for that time spent.

Will you be able to say you life was still on track or will you look back and realize that you wasted precious time?

Be selfish. Nothing or nobody else matters when it come to your success in life.