I was coming to terms with my sexuality – and that I was gay.
No matter what the mockery of the day was- I was ultimately teased that I was gay.
Fast forward to a KFC in Southern California and there I am “coming out” to my best gal pal and college roommate Stacie. In the months that followed I came out to my sister, my mom and then the world. I was gay and it was the most exhilarating moment of my life!
The best part was- I was still doing everything that I wanted to do- being the person that I wanted to be and living the life that I wanted to live. That so called “different” part of me faded away into the shadows of the man that I was becoming and the career that I was beginning to focus on. I was living life on my own terms. Those bullies in high school were a thing of the past and had no control over the young man I was growing into, a young man that would make any mother and father proud.
The recent suicides of teenagers across the United States, has saddened my heart beyond any form of explanation. As a writer I feel it comes easy to me to write and share my feelings – but on this particular subject- my heart is heavy and I find myself speechless. No child should ever have taken their lives because of teen bullying.
But now- like many who have come out to support. I am here to say “Things get better”.
They honestly do.
Against all my odds of being raised on a small island, a catholic family and the son of a military father- I survived that difficult time in my life. I didn’t let anyone get in my way of being a an older brother, an uncle to two amazing nephews, a writer, an artist, and all the other things in my life that I cherish the most and hold dear to my heart.
I never for one second allowed a bully to make me feel that my life was any less valuable as a human being. Whenever I was in doubt- I talked to family and to friends- and when that wasn’t enough- I prayed.
Weather the advice was small or large from friends. What was always so encouraging to me was seeing the sunrise the next morning- especially after a heavy night of thinking. I knew that with that sun- came a brand new day, another day to live and to make my dreams come true.
For anyone who has children- please take a moment to talk to your kids about teen bullying and all these recent deaths. Not only because they were gay- or perceived as being gay- but because it is our duty to teach our children to embrace peoples differences and to live a life filled with basic human dignity and respect for others.
For anyone who is going through a tough time and your feeling lost- please know there are people you can talk to just a phone call away. If you ever want to talk to me- email me here. I know you feel like things are hard, hopeless or too dark for you too see. But trust me when I say this- There is light at the end of the tunnel- and most importantly... love. Hang in there. We are here to help you get through this.
Call The Trevor Project at 1-866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) or visit the Trevor Project online at
www.thetrevorproject.org
It Gets Better… I promise.
David