"Crack is Wack- Change is better"

Today I found myself curiously trying to take a listen to Whitney Houston's new single- " I look to You"- and found myself going down memory lane- to when I first heard Whitney- damn that gal has has some staying power! I remember it quite vividly the day my mom put that tape into the car stereo- I listened to many songs- but favored "The Greatest Love of All"- I sang that song to death! That was probably the first of many signs that I was gay- but nonetheless- damn I love me some Whitney- crack and all!

Thinking of all that she has been through- and how today- fresh off a trip bad publicity- she has now begun- no matter what people think of her- to return to what was "good" about her- and what made her "Whitney Houston"- a daring move that must take allot of courage. What will people think? How will they judge? Will she be relevant?

The truth is that - sometimes- we forget to be honest with what the reality of our life really is. Sometimes its bad and sometimes its good. When its bad though- we are shaken to the core- and wonder...how we got there- how!?

If you are lucky enough you get to ask yourself that question (as Whitney has) and rebuild the temple that is your body- life and soul. You will be able to experience a life that is whole and a love of yourself that is so ever important.

I stopped myself as I was listening to Whitney...and repeated "Learning to love yourself - it is the greatest love of all" and thought long and hard about life- and how I must be happy with ALL that it brings me.

Yeah its an age old conversation- "live and learn"- "If we never fall down, we will never learn to get back up", - I could go on and on- you get the point. But Im glad Im one of those people that is constantly aware of what is happening around them- cognizant of who I am and what is important. And- when I get off track I am able to put things in perspective. Im not perfect in any way- so trust me, that ability is a life saver.

So when you find yourself down and out- needing motivation to "change"- look around there are many - many great inspirations out there for you to use.

Thank you Whitney for mine.

NO H8 With Adam Bouska

For those of you who have been following my ever growing participation in the No H8 campaign- here's a peek at the recent photos my buddy & fashion photographer Adam Bouska took. This pictorial of everyday people, celebrities and activists- is a silent protest to over turn the Supreme Courts ruling saying that "Marriage can only be between a Man & a Woman". It is my belief that love is not only for heterosexual couples- but for everyone. That divine right to love- and love without discrimination- is the battle that NO H8 campaign and I firmly believe in. 

My good friend Jade came along with me- I think hers were best. Enjoy.

For for information on the NO H8 Campaign, go to www.noh8campaign.com

Intermission LA

Well Ladies and Gentleman- It has been 4 months now- since I packed up and moved to LA. My how time flies. It feels as if it has been at least a year.

I have to say things have been interesting! i took the bus for the first month or so and that aged me the most. Getting used to the homeless people and the crazy tourists- its both entertaining and humbling.

Different from New York- I cant explain how- But I assure you- Different.

I got my car broken into- and have participated in way too much alcohol consumption! The late nights call you- and sleeping becomes irrelevant. You are obligated. I think there was a moment when I said to myself- enough is enough.

The breaking point came recently when I found myself buying a pack of Parliaments- yes cigarettes! I don't smoke- and thus - forced a paradigm shift.

In trying to create a new identity- almost to try and keep up with the "Jones's" of LA- I lost myself. No amount of vintage plaid- Ray Bans- Farmers Market Trips and runs on Runyon Canyon could replace my inherent need to be nobody else but me! This has always been important.

I threw away the pack of Parliaments - and without hesitation wrote on a sheet of paper everything - that I loved. This little reminder was key to keeping the path focused on my very new journey!

The road ahead is till filled with many trials and tribulations...all which are welcomed. Every time I get a moment when things get crazy- I take a short drive and get coffee- think to myself about when I first got here- and just reflect. Sometimes I forget - how far Ive come.

Cheers to that- and all that is yet to come.